October 2, 2012

sex in the curious city

Sex and the City Season 2, Episode 15: Shortcomings
In this episode, it's all in the family. Carrie dates a guy who has some issues in bed but she just loves his family. Miranda dates a divorcee with a child, and Samantha sleeps with Charlotte's brother.

Miranda starts dating a guy who has a kid. BDF doesn't have a kid but I know he has A LOT of nieces and nephews. How have all these kids played a part in your relationship? :MC

I've never felt bad about Antony and my brother Wilson's relationship because there isn't any competition between us. The only emotion I think I've felt towards them as an "item" is frustration because they get into these long, endless discussions and debates. They usually start off very interesting and engaging but then they take it to another level. Both of them are what I'd like to call amateur philosophers, so usually around 1-2 hours into it, I flee the scene to let my brain rest. But they go on and on until the sun comes up. I hear them in my sleep and once I flung a slipper at the door to get them to shut up. It worked.  :MC

Carrie's first meeting with the family of the guy she's dating was impromptu. In the past, did you have time to prepare yourself before you met your boyfriend's family? Any advice on how to be charming? :MC

I don't know why but I don't really think about family in the future tense. I don't think about starting a family of my own so I guess I'm happy with my current situation. Practically speaking, I know this living situation won't last forever. I think when that day comes, I will be very sad. But to be honest, it's not easy living with your boyfriend and your brother. It gets weird when I get in a fight with Antony or when I get in a fight with Wilson just because the other person gets caught in the middle. Our cat Miki is always there for comic relief which is why I love her. :MC  

JS: To be exact, BDF (and now me too) has 8.5 nieces and nephews - 5 nieces, 3 nephews, and 1 on the way. Since BDF and I both have dogs, we already sort of peeked into what kind of parents we'll be, and its similar with the kids. They demonstrate to me what sort of uncle BDF is (a scary one), and what kind of aunt I want to be (a nice, fun one). There was also a point at which I wanted to become a really good aunt to them because I started to love them too. In retrospect that was me becoming a part of BDF's family and accepting one of my many roles in it.

JS: The person that Carrie actually likes more than the guy she's dating is his mother. Did you ever feel overshadowed or threatened when Antony and Wilson started becoming BFF? How did you feel? Good/bad?

JS: I think I've always been prepared because I was always careful not to put myself in awkward situations. Moving from dating to meeting-the-parents is a big step, in my mind, so it didn't just happen accidentally. I don't think I have any real advice on how to be charming. My only advice is that you have to be a muted version of yourself. You want to be yourself, because you don't want to misrepresent yourself. But, you don't want to be as loud as you usually are. Usually that's not a problem, because if you're afraid of adults like I am (yes, I know I am also an adult) then you are nicer, quieter, and less sassy anyway. Don't get all defensive and "they don't even know me!" because to be realistic, they don't know you and won't know you from 1 interaction. What you do want is for them not to hate you based on the 1st meeting. You want to be open to getting to know you - that's the key.

JS: Carrie ends with this thought, "Wallis was right. The most important thing in life is your family. There are days you love them, and others you don't. But in the end, they're the people you always come home to. Sometimes it's the family you're born into. And sometimes it's the one you make for yourself." Right now the family you come home to is Antony, Wilson, and Miki. Is that the family you'd want forever or would you like to make additions (subtractions!)?

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